Warning: Long post.
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Confession: I wish I was as hot as Kate Upton so that I can fully justify my meanness.
I can't really say that I was bullied when I was younger, but I know how it feels like to be picked on by people. Imagine growing up and studying in a really small school in the Philippines. You'll be ridiculed if you stood 5 feet 4 inches tall - in fifth grade. Fast forward to freshman year high school, you'll hear comments from juniors and seniors about how much you looked like Yao Ming because you were lanky and you had really small eyes.
|No. I was actually cute as a kid. Just look at that jumper and that lovely pair of espadrilles.|
In college, you'll hear comments from people (including) friends about your weight. What struck me the most was when a close friend of mine remarked that someone actually looked like me because that girl was on her laptop at the student center - she had glasses, her hair was long AND HER BACK WAS WIDE. Another incident was when a close friend of mine called me a pig on his text message. I knew it was nothing serious - maybe it was lambing on his part but I believed that it wasn't true. Come on, I was not overweight. I wasn't even obese. I was just big. If I weighed 250 lbs I'd totally accept that but that just wasn't the case.
Weight was not only my issue back in college. God knows how many times I have been picked on by my professors on how much I sucked at being a student. For semester after semester, I can't count how many times they tried to tell me that I'd never make it through. Maybe that's why I really never pursued my career as a nurse. Those people F'd up my self-esteem and I've already lost that little confidence I had inside me.
|Dear Nursing, I miss you but I think we're not meant to be.|
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Or maybe I just exaggerated every detail I said in the past three paragraphs. I have a bad memory so basically I don't know what really happened anymore. Ha!
So here's the thing: real or imagined - those nasty comments I've heard from people through the years? I don't take them personally. Sure, they hurt. I cried a few times but I sucked every negative regard all up and just moved on with my life. You know why? Because I'm like that towards people as well.
I'm mean. I pick on people a lot. I had a friend that I used to bully a lot back in high school. I cannot even remember if I actually apologized for the nasty things that I did/said to her. But guess what? She's even one of the closest and longest-staying friends I have right now. I think she understood. She's even one of the strongest women that I know right now.
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A lot of my friends, along with me, are considered mean by some people. Especially after we graduated. Blame it on Facebook. The scenario: we'd make sarcastic comments on a person's stupid post. That person wouldn't get it. So the next step would be making a somewhat mean comment to get him to his senses and realize that he's a dumbass. We don't actually hate that person in real life - we just hate his stupidity but sadly, he takes it personally. So he goes on, bitches about it, hires an army and starts a revolution. Or not. But he blocks everyone rude to him. [NOTE: This one's hypothetical.]
I remember an incident last year. You guys know how much I hate gullible people and chain messages on Facebook right? There was a chain message about smoking. As a response to that, a friend of mine posted a status message. I shared it to my Facebook friends. This one girl, a former friend of mine (sorry if I'm bringing this one up again Ate, it's solely for the purpose of storytelling) lashed out at me. So being the internet troll that I am, I replied with a witty comment. What she did right after was to use another friend's account and confront me. She said that I was fake. She blocked me on Facebook.
The only reason why people are mean to you and you think they're backstabbing you is because you can't handle the truth and you take everything too seriously.
Mean stuff for normal people:
- Negative comments such as "You suck" and "You're a loser"
- Disagreeing on their beliefs
- People making fun of them
- ...and a lot more crap that I can't even recall
Mean stuff in my point of view:
- Saying that a popular young star + a young all-male group is gay - homophobia and trying hard to be homophobic isn't cool.
- Telling someone to "F off and die" - but this one's on a case-to-case basis. But yeah, I don't care if this one's mean. Some people don't deserve to live anyway.
- Abandoning/ walking out on your child - pretty much self-explanatory
- Telling someone that he/she isn't good enough
- Discrimination - example: That fastfood lady who mistreated you because she thought that you can't afford their menu.
- Whistling at people.
I therefore conclude that I'm really not that mean.
I don't care if I made a point or not. I just wanted to write something new. Please forgive me. Thanks.
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